Life coaches, career coaches and success coaches seem to be everywhere these days. I never wanted to be a coach, but people kept asking me how I got where I am. Coaching chose me.
And since you have lots of options, there's no charge to simply chat and find out if I can help you.
I'll be the first to say if I'm not the best person to help you.
My clients are typically women in mid-life who are burnt out and desperately want life and career change that provides an opportunity for them to use their innate creative abilities.
Whether its career burnout or burn out regarding your role or duties in life, burnout is real. In fact as of 2019 burnout is recognized as a medical illness by the World Health Organization that takes weeks to years to overcome I waited too long to address my burnout at work and 5 years shy of retirement I quit my job because of utter mental and physical exhaustion. 15 months later I'm just now starting to feel recovered. So, here's how you can recognize burnout:
1. you are mentally and physically tired and no matter what you do you can't shake it
2. You're easily stressed and may over-react
3. You're emotionally detached from people's feelings perhaps saying or doing things "normal" you wouldn't.
4. You may have a cynacism that "normal" you wouldn't
5. You have experience compassion fatigue because you have no fuel left for anyone but you
6. You may feel ineffective in your work
7. you might feel you don't accomplish anything even if you do
8. You might experience insomnia, loss of appetite or emotional eating
9. Depression, anxiety, anger and extreme pessimism at people or the world.
10. You might feel apathetic toward your work.
One of my favorite workshops I give is called Overcoming Burnout: When vacations and vodka aren't enough! We must understand that burnout is healed more slowly than we'd like because it came on slowly. If you suspect you're experiencing burnout out, try some of these:
a. If you can, take some time off. Utilize vacation and sick days (yes, mental health is health and most doctors will write you a note for mental health reasons.)
b. Talk about how you're feeling
c. Utilize Employee Assistance Programs (EAP). Most employers have EAP's with benefits like a few sessions of counseling.
d. See if you can move your office to a new building with new scenery.
e. See if you can transition to a new job within the same company.
f. Read your job description--are you do way more than you are getting paid to do? Sometimes we assimilate tasks into our jobs that aren't really ours.
g. Learn a new skill to keep your mind stimulated.
h. exercise more intentionally but for less time.
i. Perhaps you could take an unpaid leave of absence to rest and regroup.
The important thing is not to wait until you're so tired and mentally numb and so apathetic that you aren't thinking straight. I left a toxic work environment and not a day too soon. But there are financial consequences for doing so. Consult a financial planner or your accountant for ways to mitigate your financial loss if you decide to leave your career for some rest. And most importantly, don't judge yourself too harshly. I may do things differently today, but I'm not the same person I was back then. Burnout is real, serious, and needs your attention sooner rather than later.